As I work with women across the world, helping them start or scale the heart-centered business they’ve been dreaming about (in some cases for decades), one of the first things we have to deal with is the lies they tell ourselves.
You see, every one of us has stories running through our head. Some stories recount the joys of our youth. Others replay the disappointments and hurt of more recent days. And still, others consist of blatant lies we tell ourselves. (Lies that we have built up in our minds after enduring the ups and downs of life.)
The lie that we’re not good enough. That we’re not worthy of success (or anything good in our lives). That we’ll never succeed in business because we’re too [insert insult here].
As Christians, we need to kick these lies to the curb, permanently. Jesus Christ is a God of love (indeed, He is love). And so any time you’re feeling ‘less than’, know that that is a lie and comes straight from the enemy.
As Christians, we are called to be joy-filled. And joyful. Oh how very blessed we are to be alive and to know that we are loved, beyond anything we could imagine, by the very Creator of the world.
Yes, as Christians we need to refer to – and rely on – God’s exceedingly great and precious promises. Every. Single. Day.
These promises include:
– In all these things, we are more than conquerors through Him who loved us. (Romans 8:37)
– See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are! (1 John 3:1)
– The Lord will fight for you; you need only be still. (Exodus 14:14)
– So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. (Isaiah 41:10)
– If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. (James 1:5)
– For I know the plans I have for you, declares the LORD, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. (Jeremiah 29:11)
– Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours. (Mark 11:24)
– And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose. (Romans 8:28)
For God has not given us a spirit of timidity, but of power and love and discipline. (2 Timothy 1:7)
And these are only a few promises of so very many. Absolutely amazing, aren’t they?
And yet . . . we allow doubt and fear and lies of the enemy to enter into our thoughts. And wreak havoc with our dreams for success in business – dreams put in our hearts by God, to fulfill His plans for our lives which he purposed before the creation of the world. (Now that’s a mind-blowing thought, isn’t it?)
Before we get into the excuses that may be holding you back, I want to encourage you to remain vigilant about your thoughts.
God, Himself provides perfect guidance as to what we are to think about in Philippians 4:8:
Whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable; if anything is excellent or praiseworthy, think about such things.
If something doesn’t appear on the above list, we are not to think about it.
Sounds easy, right? But we know that, in practice, it is anything but easy.
And that’s where intention comes in. That’s where being vigilant comes in. (The devil prowls around like a roaring lion, looking for someone to devour. 1 Peter :8)
That’s where remaining in control of our thoughts becomes so very important. (I highly recommend Joyce Meyer’s book Power Thoughts: 12 Strategies for Winning the Battle of the Mind)
May today be the day that you become keenly aware of your thoughts. And seek to spend time thinking only about the things identified in Philippians 4:8.
Reject any thought that isn’t on that list. And those would include the following 4 excuses too many entrepreneurs have for not fulfilling their God-given purpose and destiny.
Lie #1: “I’m Not Good Enough.” Or “Who am I to do that?”
Can I let you in on a little secret? Everyone felt that way when they started. That is completely normal. However, the fact of the matter is, if you’re passionate about something and have a natural genius or gift in a particular area (i.e., a gift put in your heart by God Himself), you absolutely ARE good enough!
And you are the PERFECT PERSON to be doing what you are driven by God.
Believe me, I understand how you may compare your ‘stuff’ with another. Someone who has more experience, more training or maybe more perceived ‘style’ or ‘personality’. (Hint: please do NOT compare yourself to anyone. There’s no one else like you, so the comparison isn’t real anyway.)
But here’s what I know: if it lights you up to do what you soooooooooooo long to do, you ARE good enough. YOU are the perfect person to pursue that path. In fact, if you didn’t pursue that fire in your belly, you would be doing the world a disservice.
I know it!
Lie #2: “I Can’t Go ‘Live’ Yet…it’s Not ‘Perfect’”
Oh that seemingly commendable trait of ‘wanting everything just so’ comes back to bite us in the you-know-where..
Look, can I be 100% real with you?
Perfection is a lie. There’s no such thing.
Not by you. Not by me. Not by ANYONE (except Christ).
Take solace in that. Embrace that #truth (please!).
Perfection is the enemy of progress. And it’s definitely the enemy of entrepreneurship.
Your product, service, program, course or service doesn’t have to be ‘perfect’ (there is no such thing as perfection . . . so stop holding yourself up to an impossible standard).
Stop over-thinking things. Stop over-analyzing things. Stop stopping yourself from carrying out the purpose for which God made you!
Imperfect action is what will get you to every goal and every dream.
Take one foot forward every day . . . and you’ll be on your way to awesomeness!
Lie #3: “I Could Never Do That!” or “I’m just too afraid.”
Fear. Another liar. A BIG, fat liar.
And the killer of soooooo many dreams.
If you have ever embraced this lie – and feared doing something you really WANTED to do, I’ve got great news for you: courage isn’t the absence of fear; it’s taking action despite your fear.
Isn’t that awesome?
Knowing that, you needn’t let fear stop you from doing it anyway. What I like to call ‘doing it afraid’.
I will tell you that I make it a point to do something I fear, each and every day.
You may be asking: “Why do you do that?”
Because I know that that’s what it takes to reach the level of success that I want to achieve.
Are you afraid to talk to a stranger? Make it a point to daily connect with someone new online (social media is perfect for an online introduction). Or, even better, attend a networking event every month. And, importantly, introduce yourself to 3 people while you’re there. (I can guarantee that everyone there has some element of fear or apprehension about talking to someone new . . . so you’re in good company.)
Do you think you could ‘never’ go LIVE on Facebook? Well, it’s time to courageously overcome this fear by planning to go LIVE one day this week (yep, go ahead and put it in your calendar right now . . . tomorrow would be perfect). Be sure to send me an email or PM through Facebook to let me know when you’re going LIVE. I’d love to be there to support you, if I can.
And ya know what else? The more you push yourself beyond your comfort zone, the easier it gets.
It’s almost like courage is a muscle. And the more you flex it, the stronger it gets. The easier it is to move further beyond your comfort zone. The easier it is to do more than you ever thought you could.
Exciting stuff, isn’t it?
So show up. Every day. Try something new on a regular basis.
Before ya know it, you’ll surprise even yourself!